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Today I’m going to talk about slut shaming, because you know what, I am sick of it. I was also inspired to write this by the Lipstick and Metal podcast recent ep on SoundCloud  recorded by my girl Katlin (insta: lipstickandmetalpodcast)

What’s the definition of slut shaming?

“the action or fact of stigmatising a woman for engaging in behaviour judged to be promiscuous or sexually provocative.”

You wear a skirt, you’re a slut. You post a photo of you in a skirt on social media, you’re a slut. You wear a shirt that might show some tits, you’re a slut. You sleep with someone when you’re not in relationship, you’re a slut. You sleep with someone quickly when getting into a relationship, you’re a slut.

The way we dress, the way we present ourselves, our make up, our choices, does not give you an open invite to us. We aren’t yours to take. We can express ourselves anyway we so wish.

We get called out on social media for posting photo’s of us revealing skin by people, we don’t know and don’t know us, who have topless photos as their profile picture.

Guys who tell us we should show our smiles, not our bodies, who tell us we can’t complain about shitty partners because our boobs are on show a little in our insta photos, who tell us that we need to respect ourselves more, all whilst posting half naked, shirtless, flexing mirror selfies.

We get told to stop posting such slutty photos and we wont get messages from guys requesting to do things to our lady bits. We can post anything, I really mean anything and we get shit in our DM’s. I can legit post a photo of my food and I’ll get a message saying “I’d eat that off your ass” what the fuck, lemmie just post a photo of my fucking pizza in peace.

Where as you are praised and rewarded for fucking as many girls as possible if you have a dick, you are chastised and judged for getting as much dick as you so please if you’re a girl. One of the heartbreaking things is isn’t just half naked dudes, its us girls too. Society has taught us all this is the way we should think and honestly, it’s a fucking disgrace.

You’re a slut if you have a child out of wedlock or with more than one person. You’re a slut if you hang out with guys, you’re a slut if you’re curvy or if you’re skinny.

What’s the worst of this? You’re slut shamed for being sexual assaulted. You deserved it because of the clothes  you wore, your skirt was too short, because you wore red lipstick, because you smiled at someone, you must of been leading them on right? We get told we should of been more careful, that we brought it on ourselves for the way we dress. Women should not be told that WE should be more careful, maybe we should teach people, you know NOT TO RAPE. You could be wearing a potato sack or a suit, if someone is going to assault you, they are going to assault you, we cant continue to live in a world where slut shaming and victim blaming can be allowed to go on.

We shouldn’t be shaming each other; we should be supporting each other. We should be shouting “YES BOO” at each other when we are feeling confident and slaying, not saying that dress is short, what a slut. We shouldn’t be asking each other if we led a dude on, or was our skirt too short.

We should be looking after each other sisters and brothers, lets not shame each other for our choices and lets call out and shut down asshats who finds slut shaming ok.