Today I wanted to talk about something that we all have to deal with in our lives. Toxic people. This could be a friend, partner or family member but sooner or later we all encounter a person who is incredibly toxic for us.
How can you tell if someone is toxic for you? One major sign is every time you hang out with them you feel exhausted, emotionally drained, and negative afterwards.
Having someone toxic in your life will honestly drain your energy and your vibe. You try everything you can to help them but you’re just left feeling broken and exhausted.
Some of the most documented traits of toxic people include manipulation, lack of responsibility, lack of support, inconsistency, lack of empathy and pathological lying.
When dealing with a toxic person in your life; you need to remember you don’t need to clean up their toxic little mess. You’ll just end up getting yourself dirty and downtrodden in the process.
If you decide it’s time to cut that toxic human, you don’t owe them a huge explanation or even an explanation at all. You need to do what’s best for you and your mental health. Having such a toxic presence can really fuck with your MH, trust me, I know. You need your own time to get back onto solid ground.
But what do you do if the toxic person is a family member?
People find it harder to cut people off if they are family because of the whole “blood is thicker than water” bullshit. Family is meant to be one unit who you never ever fall out with but this is some idyllic ideology.
If people are shit, even if you are related, and I cannot stress this enough; you are allowed to cut them out of your life if they are causing you more harm mentally or physically than good.
I know it can be hard cutting family out. It can be difficult removing your bloodline from your life when they cause you issues. We take so much shit from family, letting ourselves get hurt over and over again because blood is thicker than water right? They may be blood but that doesn’t mean we need to let our mental health suffer.
I’m going to be honest, I myself have had to cut toxic family members out. I let myself get dragged into the same drama over and over again. I ended up broken, stressed and consumed by it every time and honestly, it was fucking me. Taking a step away and telling them I was done with it was a huge weight off my shoulders.
Don’t get me wrong, that shit wasn’t even close to easy. My heart was broken doing it. My mental health was taking such a nose dive trying to deal with all the stress, I had to do what was best for me.
Look if you think someone is toxic and spends their time dragging you down. Be ruthless and cut them the fuck out. I know it’s hard but it’s the best thing for you. Trust me.
And remember honey, you can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue with their actions.