“Society is suckin’ on your dick
And since I got a pussy, I’m a bitch
And since you are a dude, yeah, you can tell the truth
But as soon as I do, I’m a bitch”

THAT BITCH – Bea Miller 

Welcome back homies,

Tonight I am discussing something that all women have dealt with. Being called a bitch because you’re a female with an opinion.

Full disclaimer before I start, I am not saying it’s all men. So before anyone jumps on that horse and tries to ride it into the sunset holding my head, you can calm down. Also it’s not only men who do this. Other women are just as guilty of tearing their own gender down by doing this. I also know it’s not just women, men get this shit too but note I am writing it from a female perspective. It’s also more likely to happen to a female.

Take it from an over opinionated women who isn’t afraid to voice what she has to say, I get called a bitch regularly. Not only on the internet but in real life.

Listen up, I have to be and imma be that bitch. I also dare you to stop me.

If I see you stepping out of line, I’m going to call you out on it. The second I do this I get called a bitch and people come after my looks because of it, but if my male counterpart comes out with the same opinion…. he’s praised for being honest, blunt and to the point.

We knock back men and women in our DM’s. We can be as nice as you like but we still get called bitches because we don’t wanna go out with you. Dude’s be out here messaging constantly, shooting their shot over and over without any response and they are praised for giving it a go. Fuck, if I did the same; I am considered a psycho. The double standards held for women is purely disgusting and in 2020 need to be addressed.

Are we really going to teach our son’s that a woman with a strong opinion is wrong? Are we going to teach them that throwing abominable and obnoxious slurs is going to shut any female down?

Are we going to teach our daughters that not speaking up or out is the only way to survive? When walking down a road we can get called bitches for simply ignoring a cat call of an overly eager man. Well behaved women rarely make history. We should be teaching our daughters to be warriors and to stand on their own two feet. We should be teaching them that staying silent isn’t the way to present. Be respectful but take no shit.

From a young age, we have had instilled in us by society, as females, that our place is at home. Our place is to raise the children and make the dinner. This is what a woman’s role is right? Wrong. We have no set role. We create our own pathways in life.

Is it a power struggle? Do we feel the need to call someone a bitch because they refuse to give power to you? Especially if they are female?

You wonder why we are over societies shit. 

One prime example of this is the fall out I got from my Girl Gamer piece. You can read that here if that takes your fancy. I was called a c**t for simply stating how I was treated during online gaming. I was called an attention seeker for simply relaying the things I had experienced online. I was told it was “the same old woe is me feminist journalism that we have all heard a million times“. I wrote fact and experience. Having read similar pieces written by male writers however… they have been applauded for bringing the subject to light. As a female, who games, you’d think I’d have a little knowledge on  this subject right? Apparently not as much knowledge as my male counterparts who don’t have first hand experience.

Now let me start this next part by saying women do have negative traits. I cannot deny that. However there is some main comments that I really need to cover.

Woman who are called aggressive when they are simply being assertive. Do you know how often I am called this? Simply because I don’t fear making my point and being blunt about it. I won’t sugar coat shit just to protect your ego.

As a society we are taught strong women are difficult, we are “too much” and we are not people to be dealt with.  We are called bossy when we take charge. We are called awkward when we ask the difficult questions. We are called bitches for simply not standing for someone talking and treating us like shit.

We are taught that we should be ladies. Be sexy. Be strong. Innocent. Sweet. Delicate. Strong. Dangerous. Yet when we are sexually assaulted we are asked if we led him on. What were we wearing?

So I finish this piece by saying, as a female, why do people shake their heads and wonder how much of the shit I’ve worked for I actually deserve?

And if I was a man, would I be treated the same way?

I think we all know the answer.

 

Watch me
(If I have to be, I’ma be that bitch)
I said, I’ll be that bitch
So stop me